Murillo Eloy

How to Stay Kind in a World That Rewards Coldness Kindness today is often mistaken for weakness. In a world that rewards sharp edges, emotional distance, and self-interest, being kind can feel risky—almost foolish. You might wonder if softness will cost you respect, or if empathy will leave you exposed. Yet kindness, when chosen consciously, is not fragility. It is strength with restraint. Why Coldness Looks Like Power Coldness appears powerful because it creates distance. It protects emotions. It avoids disappointment. People who detach seem unbothered—and being unbothered is often confused with being strong. But emotional numbness is not mastery. It's survival. Kindness requires more courage than indifference because it involves staying open in a world that teaches you to close off. The Cost of Becoming Hardened Many people don't choose coldness—they arrive there slowly. After: Being betrayed Being misunderstood Being taken for granted Walls feel...

Discipline Over Motivation: The Truth Nobody Likes to Hear Motivation feels good. It's exciting, emotional, and inspiring. It makes you believe change will be easy—as long as you feel like doing it. Discipline is different. It's quiet. Repetitive. Often uncomfortable. And that's exactly why discipline works when motivation doesn't. Why Motivation Always Fades Motivation is tied to emotion. And emotions change. Some days you feel inspired. Other days you feel tired, distracted, or discouraged. When progress depends on motivation: You start strong but stop quickly You wait for the "right mood" You confuse desire with commitment Motivation is a spark—but sparks don't last. Discipline Shows Up When Motivation Disappears Discipline doesn't ask how you feel. It asks what you committed to. Discipline means: Doing the work on boring days Continuing when no one is watching Showing up without applause This is why discipline...

What I Learned After Letting Go of Things I Loved Letting go is rarely dramatic. It doesn't always come with closure, long conversations, or clear endings. Most of the time, letting go is quiet. It happens internally—when you finally stop holding on to something that once meant everything to you. And that is what makes it so hard. Letting Go Is Not the Same as Giving Up For a long time, I confused letting go with failure. I believed that releasing something I loved meant I wasn't strong enough to fight for it. But letting go is not quitting. It is choosing honesty over attachment. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is admit that holding on is hurting you more than losing ever could. Loving Something Doesn't Mean It's Meant to Stay One of the hardest lessons is realizing that love alone is not enough to sustain everything. You can love: A person who no longer chooses you A dream that no longer fits who you've become A version of life tha...

Healing Is Not Linear: Understanding Emotional Growth Healing is often imagined as a straight line—from pain to peace, from broken to whole. But real healing doesn't move that way. It curves, pauses, repeats, and sometimes feels like it's going backward. And that doesn't mean you're failing. It means you're human. The Myth of Constant Improvement We are taught to expect progress to be visible and consistent. To feel better each day. To "move on" quickly. When healing doesn't follow that script, frustration appears. You might think: "I thought I was over this." "Why does this still hurt?" "What's wrong with me?" But emotional growth doesn't erase pain on a schedule. It teaches you how to carry it differently. Why Old Wounds Resurface Sometimes healing brings memories back to the surface—not to hurt you again, but to be understood more deeply. Old wounds resurface because: You are now strong...

The Difference Between Being Busy and Being Purposeful Being busy is often praised. Full schedules are worn like badges of honor. Constant movement is mistaken for progress. But busyness and purpose are not the same—and confusing them can quietly drain years of your life. You can be busy every day and still feel empty at night. Purpose changes that. Why Being Busy Feels Like Progress Busyness gives the illusion of importance. Tasks pile up, notifications keep coming, and movement creates momentum—at least on the surface. Being busy: Keeps you distracted Makes you feel needed Fills silence you might be avoiding But movement without direction is just motion. It consumes energy without building meaning. The Quiet Exhaustion of a Busy Life One of the clearest signs you're busy but not purposeful is exhaustion without fulfillment. You may notice: Days feel full but unmemorable Accomplishments don't satisfy for long Rest feels guilty instead of restorati...

When Nobody Believes in You: Learning to Be Your Own Support System There are moments in life when the silence around you feels heavier than any criticism. Not because people are speaking against you—but because no one is speaking for you. No encouragement. No reassurance. No visible belief. And in those moments, you are faced with a choice: collapse under doubt, or become your own support system. The Pain of Being Unseen When nobody believes in you, it hurts in a quiet, personal way. Not everyone will openly doubt you. Some will simply stop asking. Stop listening. Stop expecting anything from you. Being unseen can make you question: Your abilities Your direction Your worth But being underestimated is not proof of limitation. Often, it's proof that your journey is not meant to be understood yet. External Support Is Powerful—but Not Permanent Support from others is valuable. Encouragement matters. Belief from loved ones can push you forward. But external sup...