Murillo Eloy

Becoming Comfortable With Being Alone Without Feeling Lonely Being alone is often misunderstood. Many people rush to fill silence with noise, company, or distraction—afraid that being alone means something is wrong. But there is a quiet difference between being alone and feeling lonely . Loneliness is emptiness. Solitude can be fullness. Learning to be comfortable alone is not about isolation. It's about developing a peaceful relationship with yourself. Why Being Alone Feels Uncomfortable at First For many of us, stillness brings discomfort because it removes distractions. When you're alone, there's no one to impress, no one to distract you from your thoughts. Being alone forces you to: Face unresolved emotions Sit with unanswered questions Listen to your inner voice This discomfort doesn't mean solitude is bad. It means it's honest. The Difference Between Loneliness and Solitude Loneliness is feeling disconnected—even in a crowd. Solitu...

How to Stay Kind in a World That Rewards Coldness Kindness today is often mistaken for weakness. In a world that rewards sharp edges, emotional distance, and self-interest, being kind can feel risky—almost foolish. You might wonder if softness will cost you respect, or if empathy will leave you exposed. Yet kindness, when chosen consciously, is not fragility. It is strength with restraint. Why Coldness Looks Like Power Coldness appears powerful because it creates distance. It protects emotions. It avoids disappointment. People who detach seem unbothered—and being unbothered is often confused with being strong. But emotional numbness is not mastery. It's survival. Kindness requires more courage than indifference because it involves staying open in a world that teaches you to close off. The Cost of Becoming Hardened Many people don't choose coldness—they arrive there slowly. After: Being betrayed Being misunderstood Being taken for granted Walls feel...

Discipline Over Motivation: The Truth Nobody Likes to Hear Motivation feels good. It's exciting, emotional, and inspiring. It makes you believe change will be easy—as long as you feel like doing it. Discipline is different. It's quiet. Repetitive. Often uncomfortable. And that's exactly why discipline works when motivation doesn't. Why Motivation Always Fades Motivation is tied to emotion. And emotions change. Some days you feel inspired. Other days you feel tired, distracted, or discouraged. When progress depends on motivation: You start strong but stop quickly You wait for the "right mood" You confuse desire with commitment Motivation is a spark—but sparks don't last. Discipline Shows Up When Motivation Disappears Discipline doesn't ask how you feel. It asks what you committed to. Discipline means: Doing the work on boring days Continuing when no one is watching Showing up without applause This is why discipline...

What I Learned After Letting Go of Things I Loved Letting go is rarely dramatic. It doesn't always come with closure, long conversations, or clear endings. Most of the time, letting go is quiet. It happens internally—when you finally stop holding on to something that once meant everything to you. And that is what makes it so hard. Letting Go Is Not the Same as Giving Up For a long time, I confused letting go with failure. I believed that releasing something I loved meant I wasn't strong enough to fight for it. But letting go is not quitting. It is choosing honesty over attachment. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is admit that holding on is hurting you more than losing ever could. Loving Something Doesn't Mean It's Meant to Stay One of the hardest lessons is realizing that love alone is not enough to sustain everything. You can love: A person who no longer chooses you A dream that no longer fits who you've become A version of life tha...

Healing Is Not Linear: Understanding Emotional Growth Healing is often imagined as a straight line—from pain to peace, from broken to whole. But real healing doesn't move that way. It curves, pauses, repeats, and sometimes feels like it's going backward. And that doesn't mean you're failing. It means you're human. The Myth of Constant Improvement We are taught to expect progress to be visible and consistent. To feel better each day. To "move on" quickly. When healing doesn't follow that script, frustration appears. You might think: "I thought I was over this." "Why does this still hurt?" "What's wrong with me?" But emotional growth doesn't erase pain on a schedule. It teaches you how to carry it differently. Why Old Wounds Resurface Sometimes healing brings memories back to the surface—not to hurt you again, but to be understood more deeply. Old wounds resurface because: You are now strong...

The Difference Between Being Busy and Being Purposeful Being busy is often praised. Full schedules are worn like badges of honor. Constant movement is mistaken for progress. But busyness and purpose are not the same—and confusing them can quietly drain years of your life. You can be busy every day and still feel empty at night. Purpose changes that. Why Being Busy Feels Like Progress Busyness gives the illusion of importance. Tasks pile up, notifications keep coming, and movement creates momentum—at least on the surface. Being busy: Keeps you distracted Makes you feel needed Fills silence you might be avoiding But movement without direction is just motion. It consumes energy without building meaning. The Quiet Exhaustion of a Busy Life One of the clearest signs you're busy but not purposeful is exhaustion without fulfillment. You may notice: Days feel full but unmemorable Accomplishments don't satisfy for long Rest feels guilty instead of restorati...

When Nobody Believes in You: Learning to Be Your Own Support System There are moments in life when the silence around you feels heavier than any criticism. Not because people are speaking against you—but because no one is speaking for you. No encouragement. No reassurance. No visible belief. And in those moments, you are faced with a choice: collapse under doubt, or become your own support system. The Pain of Being Unseen When nobody believes in you, it hurts in a quiet, personal way. Not everyone will openly doubt you. Some will simply stop asking. Stop listening. Stop expecting anything from you. Being unseen can make you question: Your abilities Your direction Your worth But being underestimated is not proof of limitation. Often, it's proof that your journey is not meant to be understood yet. External Support Is Powerful—but Not Permanent Support from others is valuable. Encouragement matters. Belief from loved ones can push you forward. But external sup...

How Small Daily Habits Quietly Change Your Entire Future Most people believe change comes from big decisions—dramatic moments, bold moves, or sudden breakthroughs. But real transformation rarely announces itself that way. It happens quietly, almost invisibly, through the small habits you repeat every single day. Your future is not built in one day. It is built daily . The Power Hidden in Ordinary Days We underestimate ordinary days because they feel insignificant. Waking up, working, resting, repeating—it all blurs together. But these ordinary days are where your life is actually shaped. Small habits work like compound interest: Individually, they seem meaningless Over time, they become unstoppable Five minutes of focus. One honest choice. One small act of discipline. Repeated long enough, they quietly rewrite your direction. Why Motivation Fails but Habits Don't Motivation is emotional. It rises and falls. Habits are structural. They stay. When moti...

Why Silence Is Sometimes the Loudest Form of Strength In a world that rewards noise, speed, and constant reaction, silence is often misunderstood. It is seen as weakness, avoidance, or fear. People assume that if you don't explain yourself, defend your choices, or respond immediately, you have lost. But the truth is far more complex—and far more powerful. Silence, when chosen consciously, is not emptiness. It is control. It is clarity. It is strength. The Pressure to Always Respond Modern life trains us to react. Messages demand instant replies. Opinions expect immediate defense. Conflicts push us to speak before we think. Silence feels uncomfortable because it goes against this conditioning. When you stay quiet: People project their assumptions onto you Your calm unsettles those who expect chaos Your restraint is mistaken for surrender But not every battle deserves your voice. And not every explanation is owed. Silence Is Not the Absence of Power True...

The Journey That Shaped Me: Lessons From Life I Never Planned Life rarely follows the script we imagine when we are young. We make plans with confidence, draw timelines with optimism, and believe that effort alone will guarantee predictable outcomes. But somewhere between expectation and reality, life intervenes. Detours appear. Doors close without explanation. And suddenly, the journey that shapes us is not the one we planned at all. This is a reflection on that journey—the unplanned one. The road that quietly taught me lessons I never signed up for, yet desperately needed. When Plans Fall Apart There was a time when I believed clarity came before action. That if I just thought hard enough, planned carefully enough, everything would align. But life has a way of dismantling certainty. Some of my most important lessons arrived disguised as failure: Opportunities that disappeared at the last minute People who left when I needed them most Efforts that produced no visible rew...

Why Silence Sometimes Speaks Louder Than Words We often think that communication is about speaking. About explaining, responding, filling the space with words so nothing feels awkward or unclear. But over time, I learned something unexpected: **Silence can communicate things words never could.** --- ## When Words Feel Insufficient There are moments when words fail us. * When emotions are too heavy * When pain is too deep * When understanding doesn’t need explanation In those moments, silence is not emptiness. It is presence. Silence allows emotions to exist without being rushed into meaning. It gives space for what is real, not just what is explainable. --- ## Silence Is Not Always Avoidance Silence often gets misunderstood. We assume silence means: * Disinterest * Weakness * Indifference * Avoidance But sometimes, silence means: * Reflection * Respect * Emotional maturity * Choosing peace over reaction Not everything needs to be defended. Not every misunderstanding needs to be correct...

 Learning to Be Okay with Not Having Everything Figured Out For a long time, I believed that adulthood came with clarity. That at some point, everything would make sense — who I was, where I was going, and what I was supposed to do with my life. It turns out, that moment never really arrives. And learning to be okay with that changed everything. --- ## The Pressure to Have Answers We live in a world that celebrates certainty. People admire those who speak confidently about their future, their goals, their plans. Somewhere along the way, uncertainty became something to hide. So when I didn’t have clear answers, I felt behind. I questioned myself constantly: * *Why don’t I know what I want yet?* * *Why does everyone else seem so sure?* * *Am I wasting time by not having a clear plan?* What I didn’t realize then was that uncertainty is not a flaw in the process. It **is** the process. --- ## The Myth of “Having It All Figured Out” One quiet realization helped me breathe again: **Most...

  Small Thoughts That Changed the Way I See Life Sometimes, life doesn’t change because of big events. It changes quietly — through small thoughts that slowly rewrite the way we see everything. I used to believe that transformation had to be dramatic. A breakthrough moment. A loud realization. A clear before-and-after. But as time passed, I noticed something different: the most meaningful changes in my life didn’t arrive with noise. They arrived gently, almost unnoticed, through simple thoughts that stayed with me. This is a collection of those thoughts — small, ordinary ideas that quietly changed how I see life. --- ## 1. You Don’t Have to Understand Everything Right Away There was a time when not knowing felt like failure. If I didn’t have clarity, direction, or answers, I assumed I was doing something wrong. Then one simple thought shifted everything: **Understanding can come later. Living cannot wait.** Life doesn’t pause until we feel ready. It unfolds while we are still confu...